Most books on boundaries seem to leave this one out. Each human does their thinking, their processing, their decision-making at their own speed. When two people come together this difference may show itself. Impatience is a childhood trait that can really be un-useful.
It is common today to speak of the plasticity of the adolescent brain. A recent Health and Human Services Department memo cited research suggesting that in adolescents the brain is still evolving “in its ability to organize, regulate impulses, and weigh risks and rewards.” Because brain circuitry is still falling into place, it can be difficult for adolescents “to think critically before making choices,” and they’re more driven by impulse. In the legal realm, this research has provided a scientific anchor for the idea that juvenile criminals should be treated with leniency; in the domestic realm, it has contributed to parental hovering and an acceptance of delayed adulthood. Trans politics, however, is moving in the opposite direction, toward allowing adolescents to make profound, unalterable decisions earlier.
Remember that Erikson focuses on the psychosocial challenges that individuals face in the various life stages. People must meet and master these challenges before moving successfully to the next stage. As with children and adolescents, adults continue to face challenges as sets of positive versus negative outcomes. As people mature, however, these challenges become choices over which adults exert control. Individuals are no longer simply confronted with a challenge to conquer. Rather, they consider issues and make value judgments which directly effect outcomes. Consequences of decisions are thought out before choices are made, in contrast to the approach of young adults, who follow the “Do now, worry about the consequences later” motto. Additionally, adults can revise their choices as they continue throughout life.
As adults head into their 30s, restlessness, confusion, and doubt become common. Adults may find themselves asking, “Now that I am where I wanted to be, what do I want out of this life?” From about ages 28 to 32, individuals often make new choices and reappraise previous commitments. Adults who married young may question staying with their partners. They may consider a career change. These adults now realize that they can make their own decisions based on their own feelings and not the beliefs of others.
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