It isn’t that she’s over concerned with appearance, she is secure within herself. Because she is secure, she tries new things, (she’s an intermediate fencer) gets up in front of people with no stage fright, knows her own mind but respects others, is compassionate, loving and beautiful inside and out. She’s smart, (her favorite subject is science), artistic, energetic and I think she will find her calling in life as a movie director, circus ringmaster or CEO of the world! I am so thankful for the gift she is and the privilege I have in being her Mom. I have the opportunity to model to her that true beauty is about the whole person and making friends with who you are.
I do this. I run a small dc in my home that happens to be all girls. I am a mother of 4 boys, how did this happen? All the girls are different in so many ways. There are of course common interests, they share common ideal. However, I know what their favorite book is. We read daily, several times so they know my passion for reading. They love it when I take notice. If I noticed first without them announcing that they are wearing new socks, got their ears pierced, have pink clips in their hair. They all (even though one wears Tomas the train shoes) get excited about new shoes.
I am an English teacher, and guess what their presents are every birthday and holiday? They get a book. Nowadays, it’s usually an ebook. They don’t have a n eReader, but thanks to me, my sister now has the Free Kindle App for PC. I try to buy them age appropriate books, and when they have both turned 14, I will be buying them books about the Holocaust because my sister wants me to wait. her kids, her choice. They were into Barbie, all things pink, Ariel, the Little Princess, Cinderella, and Beauty and the Beast as little girls. I always talked to them about much more substantive matters. Whenever they asked what i was up to, I always told them about the lessons I was teaching my High School students. Things just slightly above their current levels. A big one with Middle and Lower High School students, is, “If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?” it;s still one of my favorites, and I start the year off with it because it let’s us as a class dive right into learning, and makes kids dive right into what they already know. What I am constantly working on as a teacher is wait time. We really do need to slow down, and let people think before they blurt things out….
Best of all, the love when my only daughter, who is 13 years old come home. She, brightens up their world, each and every one of them. Why? Because DD’s passion is art, she is beyond talented for her age. She has convinced her art and fashions teachers that she is capable to do beyond her grade level (where she would be other wise limited she has convinced them she is capable). She walks in dressed, hair, make-up and outfit like she is a movie star/princess. She settles in and invites all 6 girls to her studio and they create each and every day until their parents arrive.
This. Is. AWESOME. I am the eldest of four children and my 8 year old sister loves nothing more than to devour a book. She has a better vocabulary than half of the people in my college classes, and really couldn’t give less of a hoot about what other people think. I wrote my college application essay about how her gallantry through her celiac disease inspires me, but she has shown me so much more than that. Elli represents the person I wish I could have been 12 years ago. My life would have been so much different if I had her confidence and bravery at her age. I am so glad to have had the opportunity to help foster her sense of self-worth, and I could not be more proud of her. Thank you Latina, for reminding us that every interaction with a child matters, no matter how short.
I agree with this article, and I wish our culture (not only American culture) was not so rooted on appearances and beauty. Though I stopped caring about my appearances for being too lazy to keep up with the make up and hair up-dos, I still feel that I would rather be more beautiful than smart, and I believe this mentality is the product of my upbringing with pretty dolls, and magazines/shows/movies with great emphasis on beautiful heroines.
Just a thought….while I do agree with you in some ways …I feel that telling a little girl that she is beautiful (just the way she is) sends a message as well. I started by telling my Granddaughter ….”You are beautiful. You are kind. You are smart. You are important. ” just like in the movie The Help! Little boys as well as little girls should have that confirmation to give them the self-esteem they need to carry on in this world. Telling someone they are pretty or beautiful is just what some people need. I would however, stress the smart, kind, important as well. Then continue with the books or special talent they might have….like dance, gymnastics or soccer.
Try this the next time you meet a little girl. She may be surprised and unsure at first, because few ask her about her mind, but be patient and stick with it. Ask her what she’s reading. What does she like and dislike, and why? There are no wrong answers. You’re just generating an intelligent conversation that respects her brain. For older girls, ask her about current events issues: pollution, wars, school budgets slashed. What bothers her out there in the world? How would she fix it if she had a magic wand? You may get some intriguing answers. Tell her about your ideas and accomplishments and your favorite books. Model for her what a thinking woman says and does.
Purplicious was Maya’s pick and a new one to me, as Maya snuggled next to me on the sofa and proudly read aloud every word, about our heroine who loves pink but is tormented by a group of girls at school who only wear black. Alas, it was about girls and what they wore, and how their wardrobe choices defined their identities. But after Maya closed the final page, I steered the conversation to the deeper issues in the book: mean girls and peer pressure and not going along with the group. I told her my favorite color in the world is green, because I love nature, and she was down with that.
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The common trend is for women to be beautiful and to care for the house, and the men to be idiots who cannot measure up to the woman at home (or at work, depending on your choice). These are reinforced not just through media, but by peer pressure as well. We encourage girls to be what they want, to strive to be smart, to be the best, to be wonderful at EVERYTHING, and to top it off you have to be pretty too because no matter how successful you are it means nothing if you aren’t beautiful. Her male peers will reinforce it at an early age by picking on her appearance, and her female peers will follow suit. The adults will try to tell her she is beautiful instead of telling her life means more than looks, and they’ll reinforce that through the media they watch, and the actions they take day to day. When the parent focuses on clothes, and makeup, and appearance it reinforces that pressure. When we talk about how pretty some other adult looks, or who we find to be pretty in movies and TV shows, it reinforces the behaviors. When we criticize others based on appearance alone in the presence of the child, it AGAIN reinforces that behavior. These criticisms and ideas are societal placed, and reinforced day to day. But it’s not exclusive to girls.